Perspective 

I'm a proponent of therapy.  I think the objectivity of a third party to help you look at things with a clearer focus and vision, to allow you to get out of your own way, can be very healthy. About six months ago a friend told me I should see a grief counselor. In a … Continue reading Perspective 

The “Firsts”

The "firsts" are the most significant times in any journey. The first words, the first laughs, the first nights out are so incredibly memorable. But the first times without those joys can be equally memorable for their hollowness and sadness. My life's journey has now been intertwined with grief. I'm slowly realizing that this new … Continue reading The “Firsts”

The New Normal

Whether you like it or not, life keeps moving. It's tortuous or comforting depending on the experience.  It's life's way of normalizing itself; a homeostasis that happens, whether it is torn apart by tragedy, or deepened by a blessing. Whatever comes in and out of your life there is a normalcy that must resume.  However, … Continue reading The New Normal

Surprise

Surprises come in all shapes and sizes. They can bring unexpected blessings or catastrophic misfortunes.  I've been the recipient of both and it has put me on a pendulum between happiness and sadness – loving life for its  beauty, but hating it for its incredible unfairness. My most recent surprise was being invited to partake in … Continue reading Surprise

Matt, My Man

"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is." … Continue reading Matt, My Man

An Extra Day

Leap Day. February 29th. It comes once every four years - a novelty like a shooting star. It's somewhat extraordinary when you think about it. I say somewhat because science has boiled it down to a basic understanding. We get really 365 and 1/4 days each year so those quarters add up to an extra … Continue reading An Extra Day